Posts Tagged ‘married life’

The bonds of matrimony

Written on December 21st, 2011 by sassymomno shouts

It’s sad to hear that nowadays it’s a common thing for husband and wives to be separated. In a country like the Philippines, where there is no divorce and with a very traditional and conservative outlook on marriage, being separated is a hard process, most especially if there are children involved.

Recently, we attended a talk regarding parenting at my son’s school. I was happy that hubby blocked his calendar to attend this very important activity for his son. The talk was conducted by Arun Gogna, who is a sought-after national and international lay preacher. I have attended one of his talks during my younger days and I have been impressed.

During the talk, Arun injected a lot of humor which made it more interesting for parents like us. A lot of what he talked about, are things that we all knew but needs to be reiterated. Although one important thing that really stuck me is his last statement about parenting..

“Parenting is how you treat your spouse.”

He reminded us that our children will mirror the way we treat our partner. If we show love and affection, they will feel loved and be confident about themselves. On the other hand, if we show hatred and disrespect to each other, our children will tend to reflect on these negative behavior.

I am glad and grateful, that despite our humble beginnings as husband and wife, we have learned to love and respect each other and have constantly shown this to our children. Even though I sometimes look at diamond wedding rings and wish that I have one of those, my present relationship with my husband is priceless and I cannot ask for anything more but to give us the much needed strength to endure whatever life has to offer.

For both us, having kids have strengthened the bonds of our marriage. I am truly blessed and I thank the Lord for that.

 

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No matter what

Written on August 12th, 2011 by sassymomno shouts

In one of my conversations with my daughter she asked me who my best friend is. I quickly replied, “your Papa!” I added that although we didn’t start that way, it just came to be. Of all the people in the world, I can talk to my husband about anything even about vanity. When I feel like I am so fat, he tells me I am not. When I freak out, he calms me. When I am down, he cheers me up.

Marriage is a work in progress. It’s up to both parties to make it successful. As for our marriage, we have had our share of ups and downs, it’s a roller coaster ride but we never let go of each other’s arms no matter what.

I guess we have come to a point that we have accepted our equality as husband and wife through our love and respect for each other. The road to attaining this kind of relationship is not an easy one. We need to submit ourselves to our partner and again, it’s a work in progress.

Even as we count the years of our marriage, it is important that we never ever let Love diminish, no matter how busy we are. Neglect is oftentimes the start of a broken relationship, that’s why we need to make an effort to make our partner feel special.

So no matter what happens, I will keep my promise to God … that I will love and cherish the man I married.

Oh goodness, this is so mushy already. Good thing hubs don’t read my blogs.

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The bond of marriage

Written on August 1st, 2011 by sassymomno shouts

I have my share of wedding invitations and this year, for the first time, I was chosen to be one of the principal sponsors — that goes to show that I am not getting any younger.

Weddings will always be a special occasion. It symbolizes the union of two individuals who is determined to live their lives together with the bond of love. With all the talks of divorce, I still believe that “What God has put together, let no man put asunder.” Marriage is always a work in progress, there will be troubles along the way but no one says it will be easy. The love and trust that bonds husband and wives are the ingredients that will console them in times of difficulties thus making their union a lot stronger. Trials are part of our lives, it’s one of the things that are constant in this world. The spice of life as they call it, without it life would be boring.

As for me and hubs, we have had our fair share of problems and misfortunes and sometimes it almost crush us to the ground but it does not mean we have to give up. After each storm, we find ourselves more fervent with our love and more passionate to remain with our union. Our secret is not only our love and trust with each other but our FAITH in the Lord. He who makes our marriage resilient with each passing time.

Each day, we pray not for troubles to come our way but for strength to make us through.

Want to Golf?

Written on January 19th, 2011 by sassymomno shouts

Golf2Hubs started getting addicted to golf when he resigned from the corporate world. Ever since, no week shall pass without him hitting the driving range or the fairway. No, I am not preventing him to engage in this sport. In fact, I am very happy that he has found a way to get a little bit of physical activity since he refuses to join me in the gym. My only request is that he puts on a sunscreen every do often to protect his skin… and he has been very diligent in doing so.

A couple of weeks ago, he decided to invite me.
Hubs: “Want to golf?”
Me: looking surprised… “Are you talking to me?”
Hubs: Yup. Samahan mo ako. (Join me, he says)
Me: Ummmm… Hon, I’ll go with you but I won’t play.
Hubs: Okay.

Really, I felt bad not being able to join him in this hobby of his. That’s why I accompany him whenever he asks me. In another conversation I admitted that I really do not want myself getting exposed to the sun. I was relieved that he understands me.

It’s enough that I sometimes worry myself with acne solutions, let’s not add the wrinkles and age spots brought about by the excessive exposure to the sun.

Oh well, at least I am still a supportive wife… going with Hubs when he needs me there. ;-)

Looking back at the year that was

Written on January 13th, 2011 by sassymomno shouts

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2010 was a year of ups and downs especially on the business side. I remember starting the year full of excitement with the opening of a small business venture. However, it failed to deliver the expected target until the last quarter of the year. Almost giving up on it due to a lot of contributing factors, it did end the year with a bang!  This was quite a blessing and I pray that the business will continue to pick up this 2011.

On the leisure part, hubs and I kept our promise to travel once a year and 2010 was an exceptional one. It was truly a milestone for us as we were given the opportunity to travel to the US and visit our relatives and friends whom we have not seen for years. Truly a significant achievement on our part.

On career choices, Hubs have made one of the most difficult decisions in his career, and that is to leave the corporate world. With much hope, we are welcoming all the opportunities that are coming his way and as for me, I can only give him the support and prayers that he needs.

With alternating periods of good and bad fortune, 2010 gave us a lot of learnings. Learnings that are very important in our family and married life. Looking back not only in the year that was, I can proudly say that we have gone a long way. With hard work and the grace of God, I am positive that we can reach whatever goals we have set.

Indeed along way from where we have first started! I remember a time when my son noticed that I am not wearing any engagement ring …

Son: “Mom, did Papa give you any engagement ring?”
Me: “Nope.” (with a smile)
Son: “Whaaaat?”
Son looking at his Papa : “Why didn’t you give mom any ring?”
His Papa only looked at him with a smile and said, “I cannot afford it back then…”

Yes, no engagement ring on my finger but it didn’t matter. I dreamed of a simple life and God has given me more than I have dreamed of and I am thankful for that.   Back then, I would have refused if he insisted on me having a ring even if the choices are simply cubic zirconia engagement rings because I know that we cannot afford it. I am not the type to demand any material things just so I can have one. What matter most is that I am blessed with a very responsible husband, two talented kids and a wonderful family. These are my real treasure.

The process of re-building

Written on December 7th, 2010 by sassymomno shouts

Trials are given test somebody’s ability to endure life. A few years back, our family business experienced some setback which led both of us to go back to the corporate world to sustain our everyday expenditure. I thank the Lord for giving us the opportunity to bounce back and the learnings we have learned from this episode in our life, have benefited us in a lot of ways, especially in our marriage.

Through the hardships, we have tested the strength of our relationship and I can proudly say that our marriage have blossomed into a stronger bond this amidst a high percentage of marriage getting broken. I just hope and pray for strength that no matter how hard our trials become, we’ll come out victorious.

Now, we are in the process of rebuilding not only our lives but mostly our family business. One baby step at a time, I know we will be able to do it. The physical office will soon take its shape and I am slowly saving up for the office furniture and equipment. Probably, in no time hubs will be finding himself canvassing for an Industrial pc to service the needs of his clients.

Thank you Lord for this blessing!

Age is just a number

Written on December 1st, 2010 by sassymomno shouts

Hubby just turned a year older last month and from my observation, he is just starting to enjoy life. I am so glad that he is now into golf. It’s a big relief since I cannot drag him to the gym. Exercise is an important part of our health especially when we are ageing.

For my husband, age is just a number. I haven’t seen him age except for the additional weight, he still looks young! I hope he will continue to stay active, happy and contented, that’s my birthday wish for him. I love taking care of my family. With that, I make sure that they have everything they need — food, exercise and even vitamin supplements. I do not know if hubs would sort to using hgh supplement, but if the doctors say it’s okay, then why not! The kids are into B-Complex supplement to boost their growth maybe ageing people can also have this supplement to boost the immune system, control blood sugar, strengthen bones and reduce fat. It’s worth a try.

Oh, well this is me expressing my thoughts!

Men shopping for her?

Written on November 11th, 2010 by sassymomno shouts

My husband shopping for me? Oh, that would spell disaster!

In the few occasions, my husband attempted to buy me something, only two things happened: I accepted it so he won’t get hurt and give it to someone or I will just directly tell him to give it to someone. Either way, it’s a complete waste of money.

“Such a meanie!”, that what my son would say but hubby shopping for me will never work. I know I should appreciate the gesture (and I do!) but it’s hard to wear something you do not like.

My number one rule for my husband, you can window shop all you want but never buy without me. Now, if you want to surprise me, ask my mom or my sister — they know my taste. LOL!

Now, to avoid disappointments, you can either sort to cash or a gift certificate. That’s better!

Although I haven’t tested my husband’s taste when buying a jewelry since I buy my own. I believe a jewelry should not be as difficult as choosing a bag or a pair of shoes. I can settle for even the simplest jewelry to Cubic Zirconia or the grandest one.

Take Action

Written on October 7th, 2010 by sassymomno shouts

“If you cannot be part of the solution, do not be part of the problem.”

It’s another way of attacking the problem by not being part of it.

I am a worry wart and I admit that! I used to worry a lot and when things seem to be too much to handle I drown myself to tears, to my husband’s dismay. Hubs would tell me, “What can your tears do? Will it help us solve the problem?” It took a while for those words to sink in to me. But now I can proudly say, that lady has long been gone.

I have learned to control my emotion and take action. That is only one of the manyy positive things I have developed in my years of being married. I have learned to be strong not only for me but mostly for my children. It’s not good for children to see their mother crying, it troubles their young, delicate minds.

Taking action is being part of the solution and not contributing to the problem. Can you imagine if I have continued with being emotional? I would probably die of depression or heart attack and that would mean another major, major problem for the family. Makes sense, right?

Like if my people come to me with a problem, my first question would be, “So, what’s the solution?” I told them never to confide a problem to me without presenting a resolution or other alternatives. That is how we become part of the solution!

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Loving my husband’s dependence

Written on September 18th, 2010 by sassymomno shouts

At the Venetian “My husband is so dependent on me,” I have heard this line over and over from my girl friends and that does not exclude me.

It’s funny how most married women complain about this but honestly however irritating this maybe I am loving my husband’s dependence on me. Oh yeah, it gets into my nerves every now and then but that’s the fun part. It’s like adding spice into your relationship.

Over the years, I have come to understand why men needed to do these kinds of things. It’s one way of telling their wife that they are needed. It should be a flattery but of course, with all the hustle bustle of daily lives, these things can really be quite annoying.

Personally, I love it when hubby ask if there is coffee in the morning. It’s one way of saying, “Can you brew me some coffee?” Or when he asks if the tie goes with the shirt he’s wearing, it’s short of asking you, “What do you think I should wear today?”

Most men I know hate shopping and that’s where the dependence starts and I love it! I love having to buy him clothes. Just recently I have managed to influence him to take care of his face by putting on moisturizer and sunblock. Now, he’s asking me what is the best night cream for him and it just made me smile.

Yes, my husband is so dependent on me and I am loving it.