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Being a full time parent

Written on February 12th, 2013 by sassymomno shouts

When I hear about stories like teenage pregnancy, substance abuse and even too much partying among teenagers nowadays, I thank the LORD for guiding me through my decision of being a full-time Mom.

The bond between me and my kids are so strong that even though their Dad now takes them to school and I am back to working, they still come to me for everything. Admittedly, I get irritated at times when they have spent the whole trip to school with their father and still not say a word but when I think about it, I feel really guilty! That’s when I realize that it’s easier for my kids to approach me anytime cause we have spent more time together when they were growing up. How can I not understand that?

The other night Hubby and I were already at the brink of argument because my daughter comes home from school very late because of her PEP Squad training and her being part of a production in the school play. I had to remind my hubby that it is better that our kids are involved in school activities rather than in some other unproductive and life-destructing habits.

“Ninety percent of American high school students report that some of their classmates are using illicit drugs, including alcohol and tobacco, during the school day, a new survey found.

When asked to estimate how many were involved, these teens reported that about 17 percent of students — roughly 2.8 million — are abusing drugs during the school day, according to the survey.” – US News Health

Alarming indeed. That’s why there are a lot of facilities that cater to Drug Alcohol Detox Rehab, but what if you cannot afford one? I am sure those facilities like drug rehab los angeles can cost a fortune.

That’s why the responsibility falls on parents like me to keep these children away from the harmful vices and from peers who can influence them. Prevention is still better than cure.

On term insurance

Written on September 15th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

I used to be a life insurance agent but ironically, my husband does not believe in that kind of investment… to my dismay :-( However, after hearing Bo Sanchez’ seminar of “How to Become Truly Rich” —which he teaches the basics of investment. I was enlightened. He mentioned that as long as you have the right investment – be it stock market, trust funds, real estate–and you know that it will make your family live a comfortable life even when you are gone, you do not a life insurance. Although he is not saying that life insurance is not good– that’s not the message at all. The logic is insurance is a type of investment therefore if you have covered yourself with the right investment, you can do without the life insurance. On my part, I was just trying to justify my hubby’s decision not get one for himself.

Bo Sanchez even mentioned that if you really want a life insurance, a term-life insurance will probably work best for you. That way you won’t have to pay a life time.Term insurance, as the name implies, is designed to have a coverage for a specific length of time.

Hmmm??? I’ll probably consider getting one for us. I wish I can check
brand equote for that. But here in the Philippines, I’ll probably need to get in touch with my friends who are insurance agents.

Responsible Spending

Written on August 24th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

As early as grade school, I have opened an account for my kids so they can start saving up and teach how to spend their money wisely. What goes in their account are savings from their allowances, gifts during their birthdays and Christmas, and me and my mom deposits extra cash whenever we have.

Next year, my daughter will enter college and now I am thinking of opening some sort of rechargeable credit cards or a debit card, so she won’t have to bring cash anywhere she goes. Especially if she’s riding the public transportation.

I am sure there is one bank instrument that can provide this where I am able to track my kid’s spending and remain connected even if she decides to live in a boarding house.

Oh well… time flies so fast! My eldest will soon be on her own while she studies college. Although I want to be at her side at all times, but I have too let her wing spread so she can find her own destiny.

Music as a self-expression

Written on May 4th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

As I have blogged before, music has been a great part of my life. At an early age, I have been exposed to singing, not professionally though, but by being a member of our parish children’s choir. Then as I was growing up, the choir has been my second family until I left to build my own career and family here in the Metro.

I find relaxation in singing. I remember we have our own karaoke set and I used to lock myself in the room and sing my heart out to the songs of my favorite singers like Whitney Houston and local singer Regine Velasquez.

Music provides me with a wonderful means of self expression. I would belt out imagining that I have my own MXL microphone and believe that I am on a stage performing with a live audience. Ain’t that sweet?

Music rests both my mind and body. It’s a way of relaxation for me. I sure wish I had the chance to improve my talent. But I guess I shouldn’t have any regrets. That’s why I keep telling my children that they should go for their dreams and pursue the things that will make them happy and that they should not depend on others or anything for happiness. Life is indeed your own choices.

Picking up the pieces

Written on April 29th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

Lately, I have been doing a lot of thinking regarding the things I need to do to help in the family’s finances. With the decision to close my small business and the new business still has not picked up, I just feel I have so much things to do in order to make myself productive.

Yes, this is the time where I feel I am not contributing anything, aside from being a full-time mom. No, it’s not self-pity… it’s picking up the pieces. I will not hold on to the past and waste energy. I will start over to free my self up for something better.

There is a world of possibilities out there and it is up to me find it and create something for the future and for my self-fulfillment. It’s all a matter of pushing yourself.

It’s as simple as fixing a furniture like a piano with a broken hinge and change it to stainless steel piano hinge to make it more sturdy. Your future lies within your hands and you do not have anyone to blame if you fail.

So, I guess I need to start picking up the pieces.

Online meetings

Written on April 13th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

I used to have online meetings when I was employed with a multi-national company and I meet with people around the Asian region and even the US with the use of web conferencing services. Technology indeed shortens distances. I just love it that you can communicate with your loved ones without too much cost. When we were in US, I can talk to the kids everyday without spending a single centavo. I just need to hook up with the wi-fi connection available.

 

Now that my hubby is on his own practice,  he can have online meetings with his clients anytime, anywhere. He even does his presentation remotely without leaving his office or our house. Cheaper than flying all the way to meet them. How great is that?

Good thing I am quite adept with technology to help him set up these meetings. ;-)

 

 

 

Will I reach the finish line?

Written on February 22nd, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

Last week, I decided to register for my first running event. I did it mostly for my son, whom we think needs to have some kind of physical activity rather than always staying at home and play his console game. Everybody is into running nowadays, I guess I wanted to try it out for myself despite the knee trauma I acquired a coupled of years back. The doctor told me it should not stop me from having any physical activity. So I got the courage to register. No worries, it will only be for a short distance of 3km. The question is … Will I reach the finish line? Teeheehee. My son would surely have a good laugh if I didn’t.

Yesterday, I tried running with my friend and I only lasted for half a kilometer and the rest was just brisk walking. Now, I can feel the panic setting in but I am trying to set my mind. I do not intend to win any trophies or medals. I am doing this for my health and for my son.

I will not pressure myself knowing that I tried my best whatever the outcome may be. :-)

I love to accessorize!

Written on February 22nd, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

Anyone who knows me well would know that I love to wear accessories. As to how many my collection is, I have no idea. But there are a few pieces that I consider my favorite like the sterling silver jewelry that my former boss gave me as a send off gift when I left the company. Another one is the multi-colored ring I bought from a jewelry maker of whom I used to be a regular customer.

Just like make-up, I can’t go out without wearing any accessory even if it’s my watch, a bracelet or a simple pair of earrings. Fashion accessories can totally change a simple outfit. If you really want to be a fashionista, wearing fashionable dresses are not enough.

From scarves, shoes, belts, hats, purses and many others, these fashion accessories will define your style. Everyone carries their own fashion statement, young and old, even if you’re a man or a woman. Wearing accessories will enhance your look. So remember to always choose the one that will suit your taste and you will never go wrong.

Prom Night

Written on February 21st, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

Being a parent always has its challenges and rewards especially when you have a teenage girl. There are a lot of pressure from  people around them coupled with their raging hormones and the struggle to find a place in society. That is why it is important for parents to always be there for our teenage kids.

Recently, I had a chance to bond and share my hip and trendy beauty regimen with my teenage daughter. She attended her first prom night last weekend. We all know that for any girl, attending a prom is a milestone in our lives.

The preparation started a month before by choosing her gown, the next week would be the shoes and then I had to have her accessory customized for her gown.

The days before were dedicated to beauty preparation such having her nails done, waxing, threading, etc. And of course, the day itself has to be for the hair and make up. Oh my! My husband could only sigh at the preparation for this event.

Well, it was worth it. My daughter enjoyed the night. I feel so good to be able to be with her during the momentous occasion in her life. I know that this will have a significant and lasting effect on her. Even the smallest things count when it comes to spending time with our children, such as being there during their performances, going with them to buy their kikay stuff such bags, shoes, and even lingerie. Just to hear to your child say “Thank you!” is the most rewarding experience of all. Nothing beats that!

“Kids go where there is excitement. They stay where there is love.”  - Zig Ziglar

Your life is your choice

Written on January 4th, 2012 by sassymomno shouts

I woke up today and decided to do thirty minutes of hoola-hoop (as part of my daily exercise) and while doing so, I decided to turn on the TV and watch HBO. The featured film was Mona Lisa Smile starring one of my favorite actresses, Julia Roberts. She plays a free-thinking art professor who teaches conservative 50′s Wellesley girls to question their traditional societal roles. She encourages her students strive for a more enlightened future and not be stuck with the stereo-type stay-at-home housewives. Not that I have anything against being a SAHM, cause I am a SAHM myself. But during those days, it was okay for female college students to get married while in school as if their only role is to get a husband to take care of.

I am so glad not to be part of that era. It will be very hard for a free-spirited, fun-loving person like me to conform with the norms during those days.

But the movie inspired me some more to look beyond just like the book that I just finished. It’s by Bo Sanchez, it’s called 8 Secrets of the Truly Rich which I find very moving… encourages me to achieve more.

“Don’t limit yourself. You’re bigger than you think you are. I believe that love is limitless. It has no boundaries. I do what I do because I want to love people…. Wake up each morning and ask, “How can I bless the world more?”– Bo Sanchez, 8 Secrets of the Truly Rich

The thing is ever since I became a stay-at-home mom, I have limited myself to what I can do, depending on my husband so much. Good thing the Lord has blessed me with a very supportive husband. (Thank you Lord!)

Your life is your choice, whatever you want to become, you can achieve and you should not be afraid to fail. Most people blame others — their parents, their poverty, their lack of college education for their failure to be successful. Wrong! Bill Gates was a college drop out, and most of the Chinese tycoons here in the Philippines were not born with a silver spoon, they had to work hard for the empire they own right now.

All I am saying is if your stuck with your eight to five job, Pediatrician Jobs, clerical jobs, you can succeed if you want to.

As for me, this year is a milestone in my entrepreneurial life — I am going to start anew. And as long as I put my best foot forward and the Lord is there to guide me, I know I will succeed.

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